Friends or God-Sent Angels

Friends or God-Sent Angels

“A friend loves at all times, And a brother (or sister) is born for adversity.” Proverbs 17:17 NKJV

     Divorce is hard on friendships—individuals and couple friends. It was like a bomb was set off in their midst and the fallout debris went for miles and miles. Looking back I see how my divorce had reverberations in their lives too. Divorce just sucks, and no one within the realm of the divorcing couple escapes some wounds.

     This chapter though is about the friends who were the God-sent angels in my life. I had four friends who truly loved at all times, even when I was particularly unlovable. These, in their love and God-prompted actions, managed to nurse, nurture, protect and guide me through the first couple years.
    Without these four I would have crawled into my bed and never left the house again. Except for Erin. The mother instinct in me was stronger than the desire to hide and grieve. For her I could still manage to function. That was a God-given strength.
    Somehow these four very different human beings were assigned by God to be my friends. One of them was just for this time and I would not have made it without her misery-loves-company personality. But when I began to recover -- God separated us. I see the wisdom in it now, but at the time it hurt greatly. The other three are still with me. Amazing given the trials I put them through. I know their love is true. One of them became my husband, Alan. One has been my friend for 36 years….since we were sixteen years old. The last, but not least, has been my friend for 23 years.
    They stuck with me—even when it wasn’t really me. They arranged birthday celebrations, met me for dinner or a movie, took me to church, invited me to Bible studies, and even helped me plan adventures. They helped me adjust to a New normal. They helped rebuild my self-esteem. I WAS worth knowing and loving. I WAS worth spending time with. I WAS worthy to be a King’s daughter. Because ultimately they pointed me to whom I am in Jesus. Savior, brother, friend, in Him I AM always worthy.